Mar 10, 2014 | vendors
FIG's logo, shamelessly stolen from their website.
As I think I’ve mentioned, I’m a member of the Chicago Green Wedding Alliance. In that capacity, I have had the opportunity to work with FIG Catering, a company that is right at the top of my list of caterers.
The thing that I like best about FIG is their food–which is, of course, one of the most important things anyone is looking for in a caterer. Not only do they make top-quality recipes and serve delicious dishes, they can do this with all organic, sustainable food. Not only is it delicious, it’s good for you and good for the environment.
FIG specializes in small events, hence their name: For Intimate Gatherings. They are happy to work with you on events of up to 150 people.
Justin and Molly, who are the heart of FIG, are terrific people, too. It’s always a pleasure to work with them. So, if you’re looking for a caterer for a not-too-huge event, here’s one to put on your list.
Mar 3, 2014 | Budget Planning, wedding planning
Everyone trusts the vendors when they know they can trust the planner.
If you have looked recently at the page on my website that deals with Money Matters, you might have noticed at the bottom that I have my integrity pledge there. In case you’re not familiar with how this scheme I mention works, let me lay it out for you here.
When I first hung out my (virtual) shingle as an event planner, vendors started getting in touch with me. They wanted me to refer my clients to them, and for the privilege, they were willing to pay me–in hard, cold cash–a percentage of what my clients paid them for their work. I understand that this can be quite a good revenue stream for an event planner, but I am not willing to sell out for the cash. I always insist that the vendor give my client the equivalent discount, instead. It costs the vendor the same amount and it allows me to offer my clients a little bonus.
Taking the “commission” (as they call it) is a problem because I work for the person who is paying me. If I were to take both a fee from a client and a payment from a vendor, then I would have two bosses with conflicting interests. I would lose the ability to help my client stay within their budget, since my own personal interest would be for them to spend more. I also might be tempted to refer clients to the vendor who offers me the largest percentage, rather than the vendor who does the best work or gives the best value for money.
I heard a very telling story from a woman I know who makes and sells eco-friendly event invitations. She told me that she had been taking her wares around to various event planners. She was discussing the commission amount with one planner. The planner pointed to a wall of invitation sample books and told her that those vendors all offered her a much higher commission. She clearly expected that this woman would offer her more. And that is a situation that can lead to bidding wars, which can not be good for the planner’s clients.
When I first started out as a planner, I was pretty sure I would never take these kickbacks from vendors. But the thing that really gave me the resolve came from a very unexpected place. I took a taxi home from the very first wedding I ever planned and coordinated. The cab driver was an older gentleman, and we chatted on the way home. Of course he asked me what I do and where I was coming from. When I told him that I am a wedding planner, the first thing he said was, “You don’t take those payments from the vendors, do you?” I assured him that I do not take them. And I have never been tempted to go back on my word.
Feb 24, 2014 | Budget Planning, Parties and Special Events, wedding planning
This is the last of my recent weekly series on budget event planning. I’ve discussed budgeting, venues, catering, and–today–beverages. If you’re on a budget, you might also be interested in my series on DIY weddings about things you can do yourself, and things you should not try.
Champagne toast. Photo courtesy of Artisan Events. Inc.
One way to control costs at your event is by considering the beverages. Non-alcoholic beverages are relatively inexpensive and might be included in your food package. Bar service can either be very expensive or relatively inexpensive, depending on your venue and on the way you procure it. Many venues have bar packages: a beer, wine, and soda package; a mid-price open bar; and a top shelf, among others. Prices are generally either a flat per-person charge or are based on consumption. If you are on a budget, the beer, wine, and soda option is generally affordable. One way to liven up a beer and wine package is to add a signature cocktail to the package. This can often be done without a large additional cost.
If your venue and/or caterer allow you to provide the alcohol, you have even more options. The least expensive of these is to purchase the alcohol yourself at a liquor store. Be sure to choose a store with good prices that allows returns of unopened bottles. This option also gives you maximum flexibility in your choice of what to serve. There are even a few liquor stores that provide event service. They will sell you the liquor, deliver it to the venue, provide glassware at no extra charge, and pick up anything left the next day to give you a refund or credit. These establishments are becoming a rarity, however, so don’t be surprised if you need to do the heavy lifting yourself. And make sure that bar glasses are on your equipment rental order.
The one thing I never recommend for keeping costs under control is to have a cash bar. As the host of the party, it is your obligation to provide food and drink for your guests. (Miss Manners would be appalled if you had a cash bar!) If your resources dictate a limited supply of alcohol, your guests will live with it. The quantity of alcohol served is not a measure of how good the party is. Serve what you can afford and you will have enough money left over to do whatever else is important to you at your event.
Feb 17, 2014 | Budget Planning, Parties and Special Events, wedding planning
This is part four of this weekly series on budget party planning. Last week I gave some tips on keeping catering costs under control. Here’s an in-depth look at budgeting for the food at your event:
Photo courtesy of Artisan Events, Inc.
One very important thing you can do to control your catering costs is to have a fairly firm budget number in mind before you talk to a caterer. Every client I have ever told this to says, “But I don’t know what it costs.” That’s the secret: You tell the caterer how much you want to spend and it is up to them to come up with a menu within your budget. Don’t expect caviar on a frugal budget, of course, and do discuss your target budget number with any potential caterer. A good one will be able to tell you if what you are asking for is even reasonable. If you don’t go in with a budget number, they will start at the high end. You can make adjustments as you go along, of course, but it is easiest to start with your budget amount.
One way to think about your catering budget is to break it down into two (or three parts). First, consider how much per person you want to spend on food alone. Compare your per person price to what you might pay in a restaurant. At a highest-end restaurant, you could easily spend $100 per person for dinner, or more. But at a high quality neighborhood restaurant, you can get away with $40 per person. Of course, the prices at a restaurant also include a different kind of overhead from the caterer, but this gives you a way to start thinking about the costs. Float a per-person number with any caterer you talk to and see if they think they can come up with a menu in that price range. If three or four caterers find your numbers too low, you may have to increase them. But you should be able to find someone to work within any reasonable budget.
The second part of your catering budget is service–what you are paying for the chef, servers, and other kitchen workers. Most caterers charge service per worker per hour, and they will break this number down on your estimate. A less scrupulous practice is to charge service at a flat cost per guest. This method does not reflect the caterer’s actual expenses and may end up costing you more. A third method is to charge service as a percentage of food costs. If a caterer insists on charging a flat rate per guest, consider looking elsewhere.
If you want to cut down on service costs, you might consider buffet service, which requires fewer people to give smooth service. On the other hand, caterers generally must provide more food for a buffet than for plated service, which might offset the savings provided by fewer servers. Ask your caterer if buffet is an option for you and see if a buffet will offer you savings. It depends on a lot of factors: price of labor, price of food, number of guests, etc. A conscientious caterer can give you a comparison of the prices.
Depending on your venue and your caterer, the third part of any estimate you receive may be rental equipment charges. These charges should show up separately from food and service on your catering estimate. Some caterers will break out the rental list with prices for each item so you can see what they expect you to pay. Most caterers will not do this, however, and if you want to compare the details, you may need either a rental catalogue and an Excel spreadsheet or the help of a professional. I have actually broken down rental costs for a client and compared them to the prices I would expect to pay to help her to see the true costs of the proposal. Rentals can add up to a substantial sum of money, so don’t overlook the necessity if you are at a venue that doesn’t supply everything you need. There are ways to control cost here, too, although not as many. You can rent flat linens, instead of glossy, and you can rent the least expensive china, silverware, and glassware. You can also shop around among rental houses for good prices. Be aware, however, that there are rental companies that offer good prices but substandard service. Get recommendations or references for rentals so you are not stuck with poor service or dingy equipment.
Always start with your food budget number before you begin your shopping. You may have to revise this number as you get a feel for realistic costs, but don’t believe anyone who tells you that you can’t feed a crowd for less than $100 per person in food costs. If you are creative and are working with a flexible caterer, you can have a celebration to remember without breaking the bank.
Feb 10, 2014 | Budget Planning, Parties and Special Events, wedding planning
This is the third in my weekly series on budget event planning. Today, here are my thoughts on keeping catering costs in bounds.
Appetizing food doesn't have to break the bank. Photo courtesy of christytylerphotography.com.
After the location, food is probably your largest event cost. And many caterers will try to make sure that you spend at least half of your total budget on food. It doesn’t have to be that way, though. There are many ways you can keep your food and drink costs under control and still have a festive and hospitable event. We’ll look at food today and next week, and look at beverages in a future post.
Consider Day and Time
The easiest way to control costs is to consider time of day. Breakfast, brunch, and lunch are generally less expensive meals than dinner. I believe that this is as much a matter of social convention as of intrinsic cost, but you can still take advantage of it. A late morning or early afternoon wedding can be followed by lunch. An anniversary celebration can be a brunch party. For the early risers among us, breakfast celebrations are unusual and offer great menu options.
Depending on your event, you might also choose not to serve a full meal, but to limit your food service to snacks. (Miss Manners says, though, that if you’re keeping people at your event at meal time, be sure to feed them.) Be careful, though: Many caterers will give you the same price for heavy hors d’oeuvres as for a full meal. But a traditional morning wedding used to be followed by punch and cake. You can use or elaborate on this tradition to have a nice, inexpensive party.
Choose Your Caterer Carefully
This leads me to my second easy way to control food costs, and that is your choice of caterer. In Chicago, there are the big downtown caterers and then there are the smaller outfits. The big ones are on the preferred vendor list of every venue in the city. Fortunately, some of the smaller ones have made it onto the lists of various venues, as well. If you can’t figure out with a little internet research which caterer falls into which category, ask an event professional. Personally, I have dealt with enough of each kind of caterer to know one from the other. The smaller caterers are more likely to be willing to work within your budget. They are also likely to have personal service and high quality food. As with any vendor, of course, check their references first and taste their food before you sign a contract and hand over a down payment.
These are some of the easy ways to control your event food costs. Next week, I’ll talk more depth about your catering budget and how you can use it to save money.
Feb 3, 2014 | Budget Planning, Family Parties, wedding planning
This is second in a series on budget event planning. Today, let’s talk about the location for your event.
At the front door of The Grove in Glenview. Photo by MWD Photography.
When you are planning an event, one of your largest expenses will be the location. But there are lots of ways to have a beautiful event without spending half your budget on the venue. There are plenty of high-profile, downtown locations where you could drop five to ten thousand dollars just to walk in the door. You can take a look at those to get ideas, but then keep looking.
My favorite place to start looking for inexpensive party locations is the local park district. And I don’t mean you should be stuck at the field house in the local park. Park districts often take over historical houses or other structures and rent them out to make a little extra money. The Chicago Park District has the Berger Park Mansion or Promontory Point. Glenview has The Grove. In Wilmette, there is a very cute party room at Gillson Park. Sometimes you can get an even better deal if you live in the town where the park is located, or if you know someone who lives there who would be willing to co-sign the contract to get the in-town rate.
In the suburbs of Chicago, there are also women’s clubs and community houses, especially in the older suburbs. Some of these are not cheap, but sometimes you can get a good deal. The women’s clubs often provide tables, chairs, white linens, china and silver. The style of the china might not be what you would choose, but having those items included in the rental saves you a bundle on renting them.
Another option is to go outside the city. If you are willing to move your event from Chicago to southern Wisconsin, there are halls available at a reasonable rate. There are also some venues in the distant suburbs that offer good deals.
If you want to stay in the city but have limited funds, try restaurants with party rooms. These rooms are often available at no charge. The restaurants make their money on the food and drink. Some restaurants can handle decorations, audio/visual equipment, and other special requests. Not all restaurants are suitable for a large wedding, but there are some that can even handle a complex event such as that.
Also, smaller museums, art galleries, and other arts organizations sometimes rent their spaces at reasonable rates. They do not always advertise widely, so you will have to do some research to find them–or ask a professional for advice.
And don’t overlook institutions you have a relationship with. Your church or synagogue, a cultural institution where you have a membership, or the arts organization you support may be able to offer you space at a reasonable price. Also, to save money, consider planning your event for an off day. Sundays are often less expensive than Saturdays, and if you can have your party on a weekday, you can often get a real bargain.
If you have no budget for a venue, you can try asking friends or family with a nice home to help you by letting you have your party at their home. This option depends entirely on your connections. But even if you don’t have friends with huge houses, you can still have a party or wedding for a reasonable price if you look a little beyond the easy choices. There are very nice locations within your reach.
Jan 27, 2014 | Budget Planning, Parties and Special Events, wedding planning
This is the first in a series that I plan to run for the next few weeks. It’s an update of a series I did a number of years ago about how to plan your next event without breaking the bank. Today is an overview on the topic. I’ll follow it with posts about location, catering, beverages, etc.
Even on a budget, you can have a lovely celebration. Photo by Magical Moments Photography.
Even on a budget you can have the event you want. It requires some extra work and maybe a few compromises, but you can still get married or have a bar mitzvah or throw the party for your parents’ anniversary and have a real celebration. Working on a budget is something I do a lot, so I’d like to share some of my insights with you.
The first thing is to have an actual budget. This is sometimes an item that people put off, but I urge you to come up with a realistic budget as early in the planning process as you can. It will help to guide your choices as you plan your event. The main reason for procrastination, I think, is the simple fact that many people do not know how to go about preparing a budget. Here is my method:
Start with the total amount of money you are able to spend on the event. Be realistic about your ability to spend, including any contributions others have committed to making. It is not worthwhile to spend more on any event than you have. Unless your circumstances are unusual, it is not generally a good idea to go into debt for a wedding or other celebration. I also do not recommend spending everything you have for one day’s celebration.
Next, list all the things you intend to spend money on. Include everything you think you might need, and add a “just in case” category. For a wedding, your list might include, for example, ceremony venue, reception venue, catering, photographer, cake, flowers, invitations, day-of coordinator, officiant, and decorations. Once you have a full list of budget items, make a list or spreadsheet with them.
Now comes the hard part: Fill in a number next to each category and make sure the total does not exceed your total budget number. (Computer spreadsheet programs such as Excel make this job much easier.) But how do you know what number to put there? You will have to do some research. Talk to vendors and other professionals (such as an event planner). Poke around online to get a range of prices. Make a few phone calls. Decide what things you can do yourself to save money and what things will require professional services. For example, you might make place cards and table numbers yourself at minimal cost, if you have the time. (You can take a look at my DIY wedding series for ideas on what to do yourself–and what not to do.)
Finally, if your cost estimate exceeds your resources, you will have to find places to cut. You may have to reconsider how you define what you need and remove some categories, or you might have to make do with smaller quantities or lesser quality on some things. You can also consider cutting the guest list. These decisions are not easy, but keep in mind that the most important thing about any celebration is not how opulent it looks but what happens between the people. If it’s a wedding, getting married is the most important thing that will happen. If it is an anniversary or birthday party, the important thing is to honor the ones who have reached a milestone. If you can manage a lavish entertainment in addition, consider it a bonus.
Jan 20, 2014 | wedding planning
What if this photo were blocked by the heads of the guests? Courtesy of sprungphoto.com.
I came across this interesting article from a photographer on Huffington Post. I recommend clicking through to the article, as it is a heartfelt plea for couples to encourage their wedding guests to put their cameras down–at least during the ceremony. She posts a number of photos to illustrate her point. Guests can easily ruin a professional photographer’s shots. And if you’re going to spend that much on a wedding photographer, I’m sure you want to get some good photos.
The other point she makes is that if the guests are observing everything through the lens of the camera, they aren’t fully present at your wedding. Take a look at the article and see if you agree.
Jan 13, 2014 | wedding planning
Here's a very traditional arrangement, as the groom and groomsmen wait for the bridal processional, along with the officiant. Photo by Happy Buddy PhotoArt.
If you search the internet for the “correct” wedding processional order, you will probably come away confused. Everyone has an answer and they don’t all agree.
I have found the greatest amount of agreement about the traditional Jewish order. (If in doubt, consult your rabbi.) The one I have found in many places goes like this:
- The rabbi and the cantor
- Grandparents of the bride
- Grandparents of the groom
- Groomsmen in pairs
- Best man
- The groom, escorted by his parents.
- Bridesmaids in pairs
- Maid or matron of honor
- Ring bearer and/or flower girl
- The bride, escorted by her parents
A Christian processional seems to have many more variants. In general, it seems that tradition calls for a processional of bridesmaids (junior bridesmaids first, if there are any), followed by the ring bearer, the flower girl, and the bride with her father or other escort. Sometimes the ushers or groomsmen are in the processional; sometimes they are not.
The one constant in the traditional Christian processional seems to be the groom and the best man entering from the side, rather than as part of the processional. Strangely, I have only seen this happen in practice a few times.
I have yet to see grandparents included in a Christian processional in anyone’s internet list, but I have seen many grandparents included in processionals, both religious and secular.
Secular weddings can choose from any tradition. Here are some of the variants I have seen at actual weddings:
- Parents and grandparents
- Groom and best man
- Groomsmen
- Bridesmaids
- Bride
Here is another:
- Officiant
- Groom
- Groomsmen escorting the mothers
- Junior bridesmaid
- Bridesmaids
- Ring bearer
- Flower girl
- Bride escorted by father
And:
- Usher escorts mother of bride to front row
- Officiant, groom and groomsmen enter from side
- Junior bridesmaid
- Bridesmaids
- Maid of honor
- Bride, escorted by her brother
Every wedding I have worked on or been to as a guest has had its own unique processional. Traditions have been borrowed from other cultures; they have been tossed out; they have been reconfigured to suit individual taste. Officiants often have the final say on processional order, especially at religious ceremonies. But I say that if you have the latitude to do so, you should feel free to rearrange things until you have the processional that suits you.
Jan 6, 2014 | Parties and Special Events, Style, wedding planning
Most events don't require a designer to be beautiful. Photo by Peter Coombs.
When searching for an event, party, or wedding planner, you might find some individuals or firms who come up in the search but are primarily event designers. So, what’s the difference? I had a conversation with an event designer recently about this subject and this is what we came up with:
This event designer said that her specialty was solely designing and creating event decor. Her website also said “event planning,” but she told me that she does not handle scheduling or logistics for events. For those services, she recommends that her clients hire an event planner.
An event planner may also offer design services, but it’s pretty rare that someone has large-scale artistic event design and implementation skills and also has event planner skills. Except for elaborate or large events, most events do not need a designer, but most do need a planner. What are those event planner skills that a designer may lack?
An event planner should be able to envision your entire event from start to finish. She or he should be able to spot problems in the planning stage and solve them before they become real. A planner should have a good grasp of scheduling and spatial layout, with great attention to detail. A planner knows where to get things you need and can recommend other professionals. Finally, the skill you want most in a planner is a calm head on the day of your event so that the unexpected is dealt with swiftly and with good judgment.
Some events require a planner. Some require a designer. And some really need both. It’s important to know what you need–and what you are getting–when you hire professionals to help you with your event.
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