Every detail requires decisions. Photo by Peter Coombs.
There is nothing like a wedding to bring out emotional reactions from your friends and family. For the most part, these are the happy, joyful emotions you want associated with your engagement and wedding. If only it were always that easy!
Sometimes, in their eagerness to help you or their complete happiness for you, a family member or close friend may start to insist that you “have to” do things at your wedding a certain way. I know many people who have had this experience. It generally comes from a place of love, but it is also not always appropriate.
So, what does this have to do with your wedding planner? One of the things I can do for my clients is help them to navigate through this emotional minefield. One the one hand, you want to maintain relationships with those who are close to you; on the other, you are planning your wedding, not theirs. I can give perspective on the situation and help you with a tactful answer.
For example, a client once had a family member who insisted that corsages had to be provided for the mothers. This demand arose two days before the wedding. I was able to, first, reassure my client that no etiquette expert gives a requirement for any such thing. I also pointed out that the florist had already put in the flower order for the wedding and it would be very difficult for her to produce two more corsages on short notice. With this information in hand, my client was able to explain to the family member why there wouldn’t be corsages. I believe there were no hard feelings and everyone was able to proceed to the wedding day happily.
I’ve had many similar situations, and I’m always happy to help my clients navigate through them. It isn’t always easy and there isn’t only one right answer in any situation. I am here to help figure out what the right answer is.
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