Who Decides?

How many decisions were made to end up here? Photo by Magical Moments Photography.

Planning a wedding means  making a lot of decisions.  Where will the wedding be? When? Who will be invited? Who will officiate? Will it be a religious wedding? And on and on, down to the color of the dinner napkins.

Planning a wedding also means that a lot of people will be interested in the decisions that you make.  Outside of the bride and groom, families–and sometimes friends–have an interest in what you decide.  Some of them will encourage or pressure you to make the decision that they want, even if it is not what you want.

Weddings are also very emotional times and those same friends and family members who wish you well can sometimes let their feelings run away with them.  What is the best way to handle this situation?

The question I like to ask is this:  Is it more important to get what you want?  Or is it more important to preserve relationships?  Sometimes you have to choose.  I think it is usually more important to preserve relationships.  But in each situation, you will have to decide.  Is this person more important than having things my way?  Is there a compromise that can do both?

Planning a wedding can be full of emotional traps.  It’s always good to be prepared.