“Shall we tip the limo driver?” Photo by Happy Buddy PhotoArt.
Here’s something I haven’t touched on in a while: I am asked by clients sometimes about tipping wedding or party vendors. Now, I’m not an etiquette expert, but here is what I know:
It is customary to tip people who provide a service to you if they are employees of a company. For example, servers, bartenders, hair stylists, and drivers who are employed by a caterer, a service company, a salon, or a limo company are very usual recipients of tips. If those people are self-employed, however, tips are not customary. In other words, if your limo driver is the owner of her own company, then she sets her fees, so it is not required to tip her. That is in contrast to the hair stylist who works for an hourly wage at a salon. He is generally tipped.
At the same time, it is never wrong to tip someone if they have provided you with exceptional service. If someone goes above and beyond the call of duty, you will never be wrong to show your appreciation in a tangible way.
Be sure to read your contracts, though. Some vendor contracts (especially catering) already include a gratuity. Some contracts will specify that a gratuity is appreciated but not required. Some, of course, won’t mention it at all. If a self-employed vendor’s contract requires a tip, you might want to discuss that provision before signing.
I also understand that it is not customary to tip musicians. But the rule still applies: Anyone who gives exceptional service might merit a reward.
And how much should you tip? That is up to you and depends on several factors. One way you can gauge the correct amount is as a percentage of the total you are paying to a vendor. 10% to 20% is the usual range. You probably also want to take into account the level of service. At a recent wedding, the bartenders did lots and lots of extra work to keep the guests happy. The bride and groom made sure their tip was generous. You can also ask your planner or coordinator if anyone working on the day of your event merits a tip–or doesn’t.
These are, of course, only general guidelines. Common sense will help you figure out the rest.
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