Wedding planning is about more things than will fit in your 3-ring binder. Courtesy of sprungphoto.com.
I ran across this really interesting article by Gemma Allen on the Today’s Chicago Woman’s website from last June. Here’s the concluding paragraph that, I think, about sums it up:
“If you think about it, wedding planning itself can be good practice for a good marriage, since so many realities of life are involved: relatives, friends, control, financial consequences and, of course, each of your own unique psyches. In all of that controlled chaos, if you can also make time to begin the emotional planning for the rest of your lives together, you are much more likely to live happily and blissfully.”
I noticed this reality when I was planning my own wedding a decade ago. In the midst of all the details, I realized that this other person I was working with on this major event was going to be there for all the other decisions we would have to make as our lives went forward together.
And planning a wedding is excellent practice in decision-making and communication under stress. It can be a difficult project to tackle even under the best circumstances, and downright daunting when there are extra obstacles, such as difficult family situations or a lack of funds. And how you and your partner handle the inevitable difficulties and setbacks says a lot about your relationship.
I think when I was getting married, myself, I summed it up this way in my own mind, “Getting married is good practice for being married.” So, as you are planning your wedding, keep in mind that you are also planning your marriage.
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