Some Things Your Planner Can’t Do
Who decides on the wedding’s color scheme? You do!!
As much as I’d like to be the superhero who can do every little thing to plan your wedding, realistically there are some very important things that I really can’t do for you. While I can help you hire vendors (make suggestions, visit them with you, discuss pros and cons, etc.) and I can pull all the details together to make sure your event runs smoothly–and I can do a lot of other things, too–there is a list of things you’re still going to have to do in the planning process. Here are a few of the things that come to mind.
The best person to figure out who should sit at each table is you and your spouse-to-be. You know your friends and family, and you can figure out who should be sitting where. Once you have made that list, I can do a lot with it. I usually take the alphabetical list and make a list by table (or reverse the process, depending on what you’ve given me). I like to have both sets of information handy on your wedding day.
Another thing only you can do is choose the music for your wedding day. Whether you are having a DJ, a band, or a Spotify account play your music for both the ceremony and the reception, you know best what your musical taste is and what you want to listen to. I can always give an opinion if I’m asked, but musical taste is very personal.
Similarly, you’re the best choice for deciding what formal photos you want (if any). I can tell you what people often do, but that’s a decision only you can make.
Photographers and DJs often have online forms to fill out that include a great many questions about your personal taste and preferences. It takes a good bit of time of fill them all out, and it’s somehow never at a convenient time, but giving them good information in plenty of time makes their jobs easier. They want to do what you want them to, so you have to tell them what you want. Your planner doesn’t know all of that!
This may be obvious, but you’re the person who signs the contracts with other vendors and pays them. I can help you keep track of which contracts you have signed and when payments are due, but these are things you take care of.
And, finally, one thing I really don’t do is made decisions about what happens during a wedding ceremony. I have opinions about just about everything else that happens on a wedding day, but your officiant is the person who knows best about what kind of wedding ceremony you will have.
Planning a wedding is a long series of small tasks. Your planner can do a lot of them (and probably more than you’ll ever know about), but if you are just getting started on your planning, remember that even if you are working with a planner, you’ll still have a lot of things to take care of. As always, if you need help, just ask. I’m always happy to help, even with the things I can’t do for you.
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