Information and Your Planner

October 9th, 2017
Here's me pinning flowers on a family member.  Naturally, you want me to know who gets which flowers.  (Photo by HappyBuddy Photo Art.)

Here’s me pinning flowers on a family member. Naturally, you want me to know who gets which flowers. (Photo by HappyBuddy Photo Art.)

Because most people don’t work with wedding or party planners (or coordinators) most of the time, when they hire one, they have to figure out how best to work with them.  If you’re in that position yourself, let me give you one really big tip on how to make the most of your planner or coordinator.

The first thing you can do to make sure your planner can do her best job is give her information, lots and lots of information.  I have had clients say to me (in these exact words), “I don’t want to overwhelm you with information.”  But it is my job–and it is my specialty–to hold and use and organize massive amounts of information.

In fact, most of what you might need a planner to do is organizing information.  Never thought of it that way?  Well, it’s true:  The schedule for your event is a document that organizes and systematizes information, as is the ground plan.  And you’ll get the best, most functional schedule or layout if you give your planner every bit of information at your disposal, even information that doesn’t seem vital.  Your planner might also be in charge of your decorations.  What she needs is not just the decorative items, themselves, but also the information about where they go and how.

You could say that my motto is, “There is no such thing as useless information.”  As a planner or coordinator, I am often asked the most obscure questions by other wedding vendors.  You never know what someone will want or need to know in order to make your event stellar.

So, please, overwhelm me with information.  I love it when you tell me everything you need–and everything you’re thinking is important.  When that avalanche of information arrives on my desk, I’m always so happy, because then I know I can do my absolute best work to make your wedding or event turn out as you envision it.

Lakefront Wedding Photos!

September 11th, 2017

Did I promise you more photos from recent weddings?  These are just the ones I took myself from one of my recent weddings.  Professional photos will follow when I can get them.

I must confess that I loved this wedding.  It felt so authentic.  Everything the couple did reflected their personalities and their relationship.  It was all beautiful.  It was also completely unique.

The single most unusual thing about the wedding was the amount of hand-crafting that went into it.  Both bride and groom are crafty people.  The bride knits, so she made the gorgeous shawl you will see below.  The groom crochets, so not only did he make the bride’s bouquet out of crocheted flowers; he also crocheted all the flowers for the table decorations.  Take a look for yourself!

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Featured Wedding

July 17th, 2017

KED Design's flowers complemented the orange and purple color scheme.  Check out the bride's shoes in matching colors.

I did full planning on a wedding that was featured on the blog A Bicycle Built for Two.  It’s a blog that says it is “real wedding inspiration for lesbians, queers, and everyone else.”  I love what they do!  They show real people and their real choices for celebrating.

So, please check out the post about the wedding I planned.  And take a look at their archives.  There’s a lot of good stuff there.

Shakespeare Gets Married

July 3rd, 2017
The Shakespeare Garden in Evanston, IL.  If you like the Bard, it's a great place to get married.

The Shakespeare Garden in Evanston, IL. If you like the Bard, it’s a great place to get married.

Remember the film Shakespeare in Love?  It appeared in a stage version in Chicago recently and I was reminded of one of my favorite quotes from it:  “Mr. Fennyman, allow me to explain about the theatre business. The natural condition is one of insurmountable obstacles on the road to imminent disaster.”  While this quotation definitely rings true regarding the business of theatre, it also has faint echoes when it comes to weddings.

Now, producing live theatre is actually a lot harder than wedding planning.  (Trust me:  I’ve done both.)  It has some of the same elements, but there’s one big difference:  A stage production has to maintain its illusion of reality at all times and at any cost, no matter what goes wrong or how badly.

The nice thing about weddings is that they are actually real and don’t have to maintain any kind of illusion.  Sometimes people planning weddings are under the mistaken impression that they have to present an illusion of perfection (whatever that means to them), but I’m here to tell you that it isn’t true.  Weddings and theatre both share an element of ritual, but that is about where the similarity ends.

So, if you’re busy planning your wedding and feeling as if you’re running into too many insurmountable obstacles or that you’re on the road to imminent disaster, try taking a step back and looking at the big picture.  Will you end up married to the right person at the end of the day?  Yes?  Well, then you will have had a successful wedding.  It’s nice if your guests are also fed and have someplace to sit and maybe a little entertainment, but as long as the main event comes off, you did it right.  So, don’t sweat the small stuff.